If you want to be happy and successful, there are eight words in the English language that you must avoid at all costs. Each of them has the power to destroy your dreams, and lead you into unnecessary suffering, disappointment, and hopelessness.

What’s scary about these words is not only the fact that we tend to be unaware they are embedded in our primitive ego thinking process, but the fact that we use them almost every day of our lives……totally unaware of how harmful they are.

I have spent many years of my life as a therapist and life coach listening to people talk about their lives, why they are unhappy, why success always seems to sit just a few inches beyond their grasp, and why the relationships they have with those around them always seem to be so filled with disappointment and conflict. (more…)

Consider this; you have approximately two million bits of information coming into your mind every second. Out of that total, we tend to filter through the content that we would like to focus on. We do this by using our unconscious filters in our mind. Some of the filters are our Belief Systems, our Values, our language and our memories to name a few. Once the information streams through our filters, it is broken down to approximately 130 bits of information per second. This relates to approximately 7 chunks of information per second.

We then derive a meaning from the event based on our internal representation system, which consists of the following representations:

Visual -Pictures- the way we see things.
Auditory - Sounds- the way we hear things.
Kinaesthetic -Feelings- the way we feel things
Olfactory -Smells- the way we smell things
Gustatory -Tastes- the way we taste things. (more…)

For those serious about trading for a living, the following is a list of characteristics found in every highly successful trader. Realize that 1% of the people who play this game take 99% of the profits. That means 99% of people who call themselves “traders” are forking over all their money to the 1% of serious and consistently profitable traders.

The list of typical success traits such as discipline, focus, passion, commitment, determination, and confidence can be found in almost every trading book and, if applied, right can act as a framework for achieving success in all aspects of life. (more…)

It was not too long ago that I found myself (ex-coward) at a family dinner in a cute restaurant downtown. The waiter brought me what I had ordered (which was salmon by the way) and soon afterwards I realized it was not cooked as much as I had asked. I still finished my dinner but certainly didn’t enjoy it as much. I thought about letting him know but my inner coward didn’t let me.

I am sure you’ve found yourself in a similar situation in the past. You want to speak up but something inside you says you should play “nice”. But what if playing nice ends up against you and makes people think you cannot stand up for yourself.

I am not talking about being over-aggressive but a certain amount of assertiveness will certainly make you gain the respect of your surroundings. Maybe even the admiration of the other gender. (more…)

We’ve all been afraid to try something new at one time or another. Why is that? And it seems as we age, our fear controls more and more of our willingness to try something new. We prefer to forego a new experience because we want to avoid whatever bad thing we think could happen. Or maybe the anxiety is just too stressful for us to even contemplate facing our fears. Whatever the reason, we justify that trying something new is not worth the risk.

Most of us learn to live within our comfort zone by default because we base our daily decisions on whether or not they cause feelings of anxiety. Every action we decide to take is based on whether it lands inside or outside our comfort zone. (more…)

What is success? Massive quantities of energy go into following the life of the individuals who are “successful”, and nevertheless for most of us the sort of success of, say, a Brendan Fevola1 or a Paris Hilton2, is simply not what we’d need for ourselves. Success for us may signify getting that job, hitting our perfect weight, finding that boyfriend - or being the boyfriend everybody wants to find, increasing our monetary property to a specific point, regardless of whether that be longed-for comfort or serious wealth … Or that favourite of mine: the free will and happiness that comes from being fully at comfort with yourself. So what’s your own personal mountain, the one you want to climb and get pleasure from the view from?

Once we have a clear idea of What success would imply to us, it’s time to check the How. It’s a much-loved slogan that it is 80% (or 95% or or …) about the frame of mind and 20% skill set, and even though I think that is wildly exaggerated, it’s factual that without the frame of mind you are likely to get nowhere in any field of your life. (more…)

If you cannot handle your career failure, it is hard for you to be successful in your career life! Here are some boosters to help you cope with career failure and setbacks at your workplace.

Maintain a Support of Healthy Network

You will be bound to get depressed if you prefer to be a loner at your office since you have allocated little time to foster good relationship with others. In fact, you will mutually reinforce the instinct to work more if you have spent time to associate with your team mates. Also, you should seek out peer groups who are constantly striving for betterment and excellence, but at the same time benefit themselves from doing leisure activities, fostering family life and strengthening friendship as well.

Do Not Selfishly Refuse To Share Your Knowledge

It is not encouraged to be selfish about sharing your capabilities, skills, knowledge and experiences with others. Definitely, no one will require you to do the favor for them, but some helpful advice and encouragement may point your colleagues in the right direction. Helping someone else with your knowledge and guidance can be very fulfilling. While creating a good work relationship with others, you are providing a fulfillment for your soul which will eventually make you feel good about yourself. (more…)

Lets talk little bit of body language, and how it is connected to your attitude and confidence. We all know, that people communicate with each other on multiple levels. Words (what we say), is just 7% of our communication when we communicate, the majority of communication is done with body language, vocal tones, vocal pitch, movement, and gestures. When I say body language, I mean: pitch of voice, tonality, speed, how you walk, the way you carry yourself through the world, having eye contact, how fast you move (hands… etc), shoulders, chest… You may ask why body language is so important. First, because it is how we sub- communicate with others.

This sub communication is even more important that ever before, because society created a link between our actions, and how people feel. For example when you are in room, and you feel really nervous, everyone in the room will pick up that you are nervous, by your actions, tonality, speed of your movements… Such things are really obvious, even for kids… you can see when somebody is sad, happy, excited, honest, angry. Look at somebody when he foot is moving up and down. The guy who can’t look anybody in the eyes. Somebody who is hunched over, with her feet together and she trying to not be noticed at all. (more…)